"My colleague and I manage two teams that perform the a similar function and effectively have to job share our role to keep the business ticking along effectively. We have sizable teams and the role we manage can be quite stressful, ...
...but I have previously thought of this person as a good friend. I always felt that we made the best of the circumstances, operated as a good doubles team, and could be transparent about the challenges of the environment we are in."
When I returned to work, I did so before I was really ready because I needed to be back interacting with people and doing something that makes me feel capable.
I feel C cannot do much more than apologize, which they have already done, so it is on me to get over it but … I find myself holding a grudge in a way that I fear will be detrimental for all.
"Nearly 10 years ago, when I was in my early 20s, I lost both parents in a double homicide. It altered my whole trajectory. I had to give up pursuing a doctoral-level degree in favor of a post-graduate certificate I could get in one year due to the need for health insurance. Following the trial and conviction of their killer, I started ...
...interviewing. At the interview for what became my first job, t he interviewers brought it up first when I tried to dance around how I had spent my summer (in a sentencing hearing) and let me know they knew what had happened to my family. It was an incredible relief. I felt a weight lift and I remain grateful to them to this day."
There’s always the chance that my name will be recognized (the case was semi-high profile in our area) or that someone I’m speaking ...
...to is a true crime fan who has seen one of the documentaries I’ve participated in about the case and bring it up before I have to.
Should I avoid it altogether if I find myself in a new workplace?
But if you want a vaguer version, you could say something like, “My family had a tragedy that was addressed through the criminal justice system, and it made me passionate about the system and giving back to it.”
"I work in virtual learning. I’m 100% work from home and on a team of 10. We handle certification training and continuous learning for employees. ...
...I interact with a lot of people via email for several weeks before we actually speak to/see one another in a virtual meeting."
Just today someone responded to an email saying, “Thank you for the assistance, sir.” I thought about responding, “Actually, it’s ma’am but you’re most welcome,” but to me that sounds rude.
It’s happened my entire life and it doesn’t bother me, but after the issue with the instructor, I’m second guessing myself.
“It’s ma’am but you’re most welcome” is perfect, not rude.
"I am beginning the process of seeking mental health treatment for several non-critical issues I’ve been having for a while — think social anxiety, moderate depression, self-esteem and body image issues, etc. I’m in the very preliminary stages and don’t have a provider or treatment plan lined up yet. I am operating under ...
...the assumption that appointments with a therapist will likely need to happen during business hours. This by itself isn’t a concern for me; my company is pretty good about flexibility with working hours. I don’t imagine it will be an issue for me to make the time up by coming early or staying late on other days."
My issue lies with how to communicate this to my bosses. With my old team, I had a good handle on how to approach a conversation about my plans, but with this new group I’m not sure what is appropriate.
I would also add, I may be WAY overthinking this.
You can simply say, “I am going to have a recurring weekly medical appointment for the foreseeable future. I’ll need to ...
...leave an hour early every Tuesday for it. Could I come in early on those days so my hours balance out?” That’s it.
"After trying multiple times, I’ve finally landed a position with an organization I’m so excited about. The only problem is, I’ve only received a verbal offer from them, and they stated they needed a reference from my current supervisor (it’s an internal transfer since my current org and theirs are under the same “umbrella,” so to speak) before ...
...moving forward with an official written offer." The only problem is, I’ve only received a verbal offer from them, and they stated they needed a reference from my current supervisor (it’s an internal transfer since my current org and theirs are under the same “umbrella,” so to speak) before moving forward with an official written offer."
I finally worked up the courage to do so two days ago (based on advice from you that I was probably over-agonizing about contacting her), and she responded immediately ...
...(less than a minute) saying, “I will follow up with them today to see where it is at.” But still, my supervisor has heard nothing, and I’ve heard nothing more since.
Check back early next week, since Thanksgiving will slow everything down this week.